Intervention tips continued…
2) Finding the Right Time to Talk is important
It’s best to talk to your loved one when he or she is sober—or as close to as sober as possible. If you talk to a person about addiction when he or she is high it isn’t a great idea. The drugs reduce a person’s ability to think clearly, react calmly and truly register and remember and fully understand everything that you have said.
Choosing a sober moment also helps protect everyone’s safety, as someone who is high or drunk is more likely to respond with out-of-control words or actions.
Talking first thing in the morning may be your best opportunity as they may be somewhat sober. This can allow you to communicate without having to reach past a haze of drugs. If you hold an intervention after a major drug-related incident this might also be an excellent idea because they will be feeling more vulnerable, e.g. if a person who has recently been charged with driving under the influence might now be willing to discuss addiction and how these problems might be avoided in the future. The incident could provide a moment of clarity that the family can build upon in their intervention.
3) Best to use a private and formal type spot
Many people want to hold an intervention in the family home. However, while you want your loved one to feel comfortable, home can be too comfortable. The person you are having the intervention for might retreat to a bedroom or bathroom when the intervention conversation starts, and the talk could be over well before it begins. You’ve also likely had other, less successful talks at home, and those talks may leave negative memories or associations behind.
Having an intervention in a more neutral and formal space can help solve these problems.
You could do the intervention at a therapist or interventionist’s office. People tend to be on their best behavior in these spaces, and it can be hard for people to simply walk out and hide when they’re in new surroundings. Interventionists can help families to find a safe, private space. Churches or community centers can also be good spaces or assistance for good resources.